We are less than two weeks out from our house move now. And my god it’s been a long slog to get to this stage. It’s been months of back and forward to developer, solicitor, government agencies, banks and financial advisors.
Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret.
There is a definite reason that people say moving house is one of the most stressful things that you can do. It has been hideous. And buying a new build (again) really is no picnic. There are so many advantages to buying new – we got some financial incentives that enabled us to buy the dream house that we couldn’t have done otherwise, but there are also a lot of pitfalls – hidden costs and things that only come as upgrades. For example carpets and turf. We were lucky in our first house that we got both of those things as standard. But because we have such a big financial incentive this time they are not throwing anything else into the deal.
Who knew carpets could be so expensive?! And wardrobes… if you want the fancy upgrades it will cost you an extra £275 per wardrobe?!!! Just for shelves! It’s madness. We have also just dealt with the stress of when to have our flooring laid. Because it’s a new build the developer will not allow the flooring company to come in until we have completed. Which is a total ball ache as we won’t be able to unpack properly until the flooring is down. And to make matters worse the flooring company have identified that we need damp proof screen laid which is a six hour set. Meaning not only do we have to wait four days after we move in- but we also have to go and stay somewhere else overnight the night before so that they can paint the floors. Are you starting to sense my frustration?
Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.
Add this to the fact that for the last five weeks I have been living in a nightmare of packing boxes and rearranged furniture. We made the decision to buy a new set of dining room furniture for the new house, but of course it had to be stored before we could move. It’s currently sat behind our sofa along with the six chairs. As a constant reminder that we’re still waiting to move.
I’ve found myself in a state of permanent exhaustion, which I am sure is due to the stress of the move. My weight is all over the place because unfortunately when I feel stress I do tend to turn to food – no matter how much I try to avoid it. And my skin is awful – I suffer from sebhorraeic dermatitis anyway – but stress is a real trigger to flare it up.
Home is where the heart is, even if you can’t remember where you packed it. Anon
But aside from all the stress – the frustration at slowness, the annoyance at the fact we can’t have carpets fitted until 4 days after we move in – I am so excited to move. Not just because it is an amazing house that I love… but because a change is really what I think we need.
The last two years have quite honestly sucked. And it felt a little like we got stuck where we were. Nothing was changing and it just felt like we were waiting for life to happen. Not anymore 🙂 It feels so good to be grabbing life by the balls and seizing the day and making a change. I’m really thinking of this as a fresh start where we can almost reinvent ourselves. I don’t think the house is going to be the answer to our prayers – I don’t think we’ll move in and I’ll magically get pregnant… but it will provide us with a focus other than that. There will be so much to do around the house for such a long time that it really will keep us focussed and busy!
We cannot change our memories. But we can change the power they have over us.
So bring it on. Two weeks to go and maybe we’ll finally get somewhere.